Arguing Productively Leads to a Lasting Relationship

1. Does this remind you of anything? A couple’s fight gone out of control?
   
   One of the key factors to making a relationship work and last is learning how to argue well and avoid being nasty. And no, there is no such thing as not arguing. While learning and understanding how you communicate and how your partner communicates is critical to minimizing the arguments, let’s face it, every couple argues and it can get nasty.

   If you want to improve your relationship, then you need to learn how to argue well and here’s where you need to start:

   Calm Down. You are about to burst with anger and all you can think of is how you’ve been wronged, misunderstood and attacked by your partner. Recognize that this is the critical moment where you need to reel it in, try and calm down before you react. How you react at this critical juncture will pave the way for how the argument will turn out. Whatever you need to do to calm down, do it.
   

   No Cursing!! If you curse, realize that it will take away your partners focus on the point you want to make and shift the focus to the fact that you are cursing at him or her. Moreover, the more you do it, the more it becomes a habit that becomes very difficult to break. It’s true that the people closest to you can hurt you the most and get you worked up like no one else can, but try and keep it clean.

   Ask, listen, process and acknowledge. Set the precedence and an example by asking your partner why he or she is hurt by your actions. Refrain at this time from going into an explanation or trying to justify. Just listen to your partner, process what he or she is saying and acknowledge your partner’s feelings by reiterating it. It’s may seem a bit elementary, but it’s definitely not easy to do.

   Talk about why you are upset but avoid using “YOU”. When you are talking, avoid using “you”. Rather, start out your statements with “when you did X, you made me feel Y”. In the former instance, the partner will only hear you attacking him or her. In the latter instance, the partner will focus more on how certain actions or statements made you feel.

   Apologize. You don’t have to apologize for everything. You simply apologize for hurting your partner’s feelings. You are not agreeing to every claim that your partner makes about you by apologizing, but you are apologizing for hurting your partner’s feelings.

   There are no winners and losers in relationships. Either you both win or lose at the end of the day when alls said and done. When using arguing well strategies, you may feel like you are giving in often times, but realize that you are setting precedence and a standard for arguing. And once in a while, what’s wrong with giving in

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Girls Described Through Mathematics

The following equation proves something about society and girls. Credit is given to Joshua Vanderburg for originally presenting the idea to me (although it seems to have been floating around the internet); the first two lines are his, the rest is my own take on the proof.

• Girls require both time and money:
  GIRLS = TIME * MONEY
• We all know that time is money, so TIME = MONEY. By substitution, we now have:
  GIRLS = MONEY * MONEY
• This simplifies to:
  GIRLS = MONEY^2
• Money is said to be the cause of all evil, so if MONEY = EVIL, then we substitute to get:
  GIRLS = EVIL^2
• We now use the statement GIRLS = EVIL to substitute again:
  GIRLS = GIRLS^2
• Now we solve the equation. First, we set it equal to 0 by subtracting GIRLS from both sides.
  0 = GIRLS^2 – GIRLS
• Next, we factor out a GIRLS on the right side.
  0 = GIRLS(GIRLS – 1)
• By the Zero-Factor Property, either GIRLS = 0 or GIRLS – 1 = 0. Thus, the solutions are 0 and 1.

Conclusion:

Our equation is true for GIRLS = 0 and GIRLS = 1. Amazingly enough, this is a perfect blend with society, and also the reason I like this particular equation. You can have no girls (be single) or one girl (married). The beauty of the equation is that it prevents illegal polygamy (GIRLS>1 will not work).

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Today, yahoo, google and bing has declared their top 10 search keywords for 2009, which are also the hottest news and most concerned items on the internet 2009.

Yahoo Hottest keywords 2009:
1. Micheal Jackson
2. Twilight
3. WWE
4. Megan Fox
5. Britney Spears
6. Naruto
7. American Idol
8. Kim Kardashian
9. NASCAR
10. Runescape

Google most searched keywords 2009:
1. Micheal Jackson
2. Facebook
3. Tuenti
4. Twitter
5. Sanalika
6. New Moon
7. Lady Gaga
8. Windows7
9. Runescape
10. Torpedo Gratis

Bing most concerning items:
1. Micheal Jackson
2. Twitter
3. Swine Flu
4. Stock Market
5. Farrah Fawcett
6. Patrick Swayze
7. Cash For Clunkers
8. Jon and Kate Gosselin
9. Billy Mays
10. Jayce Dugard

Enjoy the 2009 Top 10 Searched Keywords list

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Common Household Poisons

The following is a list of the more common poisonous products found in your home. Make sure you keep them out of reach from children!

I am sure you can do further research on some of these substances on Google..

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